Listen. We’ve all been burned. Things go wrong in relationships and often you’re left without solid closure. It sucks, but it happens. But this is different. This is that mystifying, “wtf?”-inducing, “did you die?”-questioning kind of shit. I’m talking, “wait…whaaaa?” stuff. I started dating a dude that was a bit older. After a few months of this dating… Read more →
Being An Adult Is Hard.
I just had a conversation with my lifelong best friend in which we both shared the same sentiment: being an adult is overwhelming, sometimes disappointing, and a heavy weight on our shoulders. Friend: Sure do miss our sleepovers. Your Dad’s house. Bottom bunk. Dead AIM – both signed in. Me: Life was easy then. But we forget what mattered at… Read more →
Dating: You’re Most Likely Terrible At It
As an adult, dating is incredibly exhausting. We’re lucky enough to have the technology that let’s us qualify people before wasting time meeting in person, but even that takes an huge effort. Who has time for ten conversations at a time – especially if they’re all basically the same? I haven’t dated around for a long time – since college –… Read more →
“Wow. You really, deeply loved him, didn’t you?” Those were words just spoken by a former co-worker. I was actually taken aback by how surprising and deep that statement was. I immediately thought, “why is that shocking?”. But, after a conversation, I realized that the way I loved my ex wasn’t really all that common these days. And it made… Read more →
Things That Go Through Your Head After a Breakup
Maybe the dudes have some of the same, but this is for the ladies. We’ve all been there. One minute we’re happy someone crappy is out of our life. Then, a spider shows up to obviously kill us when we’re sleeping. Hang with me, these aren’t all sad. Of course, some are. But many are funny and completely irrational too. Read more →
Dudes: Let Me Tell You How to Online Date – Part 2
Click here for Part 1 So, I’m not going to start at the beginning. But here’s a quick background on me: 31 Just got out of a long-term relationship with my best dude friend Haven’t been “single” since I was 19 Successful career Decent looking, in shape, blonde hair, big boobs Strong grasp of English language and how to… Read more →
Everything Could Use A Little Room to Breathe
When you listen to a really great piece of music – it’s those bars before the build up and crescendo take place. In art, it’s the white space or whatever isn’t the point of focus. In life, it’s those moments that are easy, free and not filled with too much excitement. These spaces of breathing room allow us to really appreciate what’s… Read more →
Ladies: Know Your Worth. Men: Make Us Feel Supported.
In the past, I’ve stressed the importance of dating a strong woman. I’ve also given some (semi-funny) advice on how dudes can do a better job with online dating. But what about once that online dating dude has landed his strong woman? How do you keep it from crumbling? Dudes: how do you ensure that strong lady (that doesn’t necessarily need… Read more →
Dudes: Let Me Tell You How to Online Date – Part 1
After my recent breakup, I downloaded Tinder and got on Match. I’m talking night one through my tears and sobs. I figured, I’m 30, I’m smart (and ok looking) and there is no reason I should sit around contemplating life every night while watching Gilmore Girls. I don’t like to waste time in any aspect of life, why should I… Read more →
Why You Should Date a Strong Woman.
Although I’m (almost) 30 and single-ish(?), I consider my relationship life to be quite successful. My last relationship was 8 years and the only reason it didn’t result in marriage is because I realized we had grown into quite different people. We didn’t really fight and are still really close friends. I could be married, but I wouldn’t be doing either… Read more →