“Wow. You really, deeply loved him, didn’t you?”
Those were words just spoken by a former co-worker. I was actually taken aback by how surprising and deep that statement was. I immediately thought, “why is that shocking?”. But, after a conversation, I realized that the way I loved my ex wasn’t really all that common these days. And it made me sad.
Of course I loved that human with every fiber of my being. I knew him deeper than anyone in his life had. I let him know me unlike anyone. Unconditional love is something people commonly reserve for children and so many are afraid to love another adult that way. I get it, trust me. As someone completely scorn by that deep of love now – I get it.
But that’s what life is about, right? Making real connections with people you deem worthy of understanding you. Really letting people in to love you for you. Loving others for every perfect and unperfect thing they have to offer.
Yeah, when the love of your life exits yours, it breaks you. A LOT. It feels like giving everything was a huge mistake. But would you really take back all those incredible moments? I know I wouldn’t. And I would kill to have future ones just like them.
So, in order to move forward in life, we all have to believe it’s possible again. We have to not close ourselves off to that opportunity of real love and connection. Even when it feels impossible and painful. True love, friendship, and deep understanding are really what life is about. So live.
Sam Siman
Sam works in advertising/marketing by day and moonlights with startup consulting, dating profile overhauls, and event planning. She lives in Columbus with her two dogs and spends her free time writing, drinking coffee and local beers, getting zen with yoga, catching a good concert, and laughing with friends. She doesn't give a shit if you're offended by lewd language, so #dealwithit.